Rants with Rabia | Hijab, Part Time Hijabi, Modesty

by - Monday, May 22, 2017


Hi, guys! As much as my blog is about loving life, less negativity and more positivity since it's love, not hate. There are some things that I just need to rant about because I have come across such frustrating things and sometimes sharing it on the net where it's pretty global, is actually good. I'm just going to get straight into it. As you can guys can tell from the title, this post is related to Hijab/Part-time Hijabi/Modesty etc. Something that people keep banging on about no matter what.

So, Masha'Allah there are many female Muslim bloggers out there, and day by day it's growing. However, rather than taking this change in a positive way, there is always a group of people that are continuously bringing the negativity. And I feel pretty ashamed to say this, but quite a lot of the negativity comes from female Muslims. And I really don't know why. We are meant to empower one another, help each other out, and if one is wrong, then the other should advice them KINDLY and PRIVATELY. Yes, that is taught in Islam, but come on its RESPECT. You don't go slandering that person in the comment section down below a picture or status, whether they are a public figure or not. 

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Let me get this clear about hijab since many of the negative comments are always related to this. In Islam, these are two verses that talk about hijab in general, and another two more specifically. 

N U M B E R  O N E 

قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنِيْنَ يَغُضُّوْا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَ يَحْفَظُوْا فُرُوْجَهُمْ, ذَلِكَ أَزْكَى لَهُمْ.

Say to the believing men that: they should cast down their glances and guard their private parts (by being chaste). This is better for them.”

N U M B E R  T W O 

...قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَ يَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوْجَهُنَّ

“Say to the believing women that: they should cast down their glances and guard their private parts (by being chaste)…”

N U M B E R  T H R E E 

...وَ لاَ يُبْدِيْنَ زِيْنَتَهُنَّ إِلاَّ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَ لْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلىَ جُيُوْبِهِنَّ

“...and not display their beauty except what is apparent, and they should place their khumur over their bosoms...”

N U M B E R  F O U R 

...يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ, قُلْ لأَزْوَاجِكَ وَ بَنَاتِكَ وَ نِسآءِ الْمُؤْمِنِيْنَ: يُدْنِيْنَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِنْ جَلاَبِيْبِهِنَّ

“O Prophet! Say to your wives, your daughters, and the women of the believers that: they should let down upon themselves their jalabib.

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First two verses apply to both women and men. Not just men. And not just women. Both parties need to understand that, especially men. The reason why I say that is because some men think they can control or say things to women about how they dress, behave etc. And honestly, unless they are a family member they shouldn't because they are meant to keep their gaze down in the first place, and shouldn't even talk to that woman either.  So if some men didn't do that, there wouldn't be such a high issue on patriarchy. 

I also put the other two verses just to INFORM the women out there, that overall in Islam being fully covered from head to toe is how we are meant to dress like. The way that is done is by wearing the Jilbab, which is shown below. So yes anything besides that isn't really considered hijab, and that is the fact.

  

But, if one is not able to follow that, then a woman can still dress up modest, what I mean by that is covered up. So when people comment on certain Hijabi Bloggers post about their way of fashion and mention that they aren't going according to what Islam says about Hijab, then it infuriates me because okay they aren't wearing a Jilbab, but the next best thing is that they are covered. But having people pinpoint it out, is insensitive, and downgrading because Islam isn't about shaming a person. Islam isn't very strict as people make it seem out to be. Would you rather have a Muslim woman be half naked with certain body parts showing, or at least understand that they at least covered up more? 

            

Here I am using Dina Torkia as the main example. The amount of people, that hate on her because of the way she wears her hijab and clothes is unreal. Let's get this out there, she know she isn't wearing her scarf the right way. SHE KNOWS. And that's why she doesn't bother with comments about it now. In terms of her clothes, it is not a Jilbab. Okay, but is she covered? Yes. And that is what I see. I see the modesty. If one cannot wear the Jilbab yet then they can be modest by wearing certain types of clothes. You never know, she slowly might start wearing Abaya/Jubbah more, then Jilbab, but that is her journey. That is her intention. Another example that some haters/"Shaikhs" would say is that her jeans are rolled up. I do that myself, quite a few girls do that themselves, and it's not right. We SHOULD NOT, and if the person knows that, then it's up to them about how they deal with it. IT IS between them and Allah. 

What I am trying to say is that we don't know whether a person knows they are sinning or not. If they know what they are doing is wrong then having so many people comment about it, would get frustrating. As Muslims, our role is to help fellow Muslims out, and if you feel the need to say something then PLEASE advice it to them PRIVATELY, and honestly, if you have nothing good to say, then don't say anything at all.  Here are some Hadith/sayings in Islam, that mentions about this in case it doesn't go through someone's head;

"Not a word is said except that there is a watcher by him ready to record it" (Quran 50:18).

The Prophet(S.A.W) said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or keep silent" (Bukhari and Muslim).


"The best of all Muslims is one whose tongue and hand others are protected from" (Muslim).

"The Prophet(S.A.W) was not one who would abuse (others) or say obscene words, or curse (others)..."(Bukhari). 

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Now that I have covered the whole meaning about Hijab, this part is about "Part Time Hijabi". Apparently, that's a term. I got this idea from one of Sid and Dina's video, and I agree with many points they said (video). I used to be a person that would think what was the point of wearing a hijab if it's going to be on and off. Half the time you show your hair, and the half of the time you don't. Either you wear it or don't. And honestly, that was so bad of me to think, that's a small-minded thought, to be honest. You never know a struggle someone is going through, and the fact that they are wearing the hijab, whenever they can is an important factor itself. It shows that they are aware of the hijab. Plus you never know whether that is their way of slowly becoming "Full-Time Hijabi".

For a person that has not worn a scarf, it is very easy to tell them not to bother wearing a scarf if they aren't going to only stick to it part-time. But that is not what we should encourage. We should help them take those small steps to wearing a hijab or do good because it's not like we are any better. Just like we took steps to get to the place where we are still doing so, the same way that person is going through their hardship and trying to do what they can.

So next time you see someone that has worn the hijab a couple of days ago, and then they don't, please don't think negative of them. Instead stay positive, and think well of them. The positivity needs to spread again, it shouldn't be easy to think or say negative things about someone. That is why even if someone is too kind, then instead of actually being happy with it, people take the kindness as "fake". Can someone really not be happy/kind/positive? Has it become a crime?

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That's all there is to this post, I really hope this has benefitted anyone reading this. I am not the best person at explaining things, but I really felt the need to get this out there, in case anyone is misguided into what the Hijab really is etc. I pray for positivity, and kindness in this world. The more you do good, the better you feel as a person, and also more good will come back to you. Being negative or spreading negativity doesn't get you anywhere. If I have said anything wrong in terms of the Islamic verses/hadith, then do let me know. But the rest is genuinely what I think. Some may not agree with it, and others may agree. Also, I am in no means looking for a bad debate, however a good debate or further curiosity is something I won't mind.

Jazak'Allah/Thank you for reading! My blog just turned 2, 2 days ago, which I am very happy about, and I hope I can continue doing posts like this if that is something you'all want. Or you can just contact me through my social media/comment section on what posts you would like to read about!

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